Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Healing For the Broken

Since my last blog there have been several things that have happened. I have had numerous people want to know how to explain suicide to their kids. The big question is whether someone who commits suicide goes to heaven. Here is the short answer. It is not a sin that keeps us from heaven. It is the lack of a Savior. Jesus either pays for all of my sin or none of my sin. He does not pick through the pile. There has been a great and wonderful exchange. He went to the cross and took all my sin and then gave me his righteousness (2 Corinthians 5:21). There is nowhere in the Bible that it says I have to be all confessed up in order to get into heaven. If that was the case then my forgiveness would be based on my sensitivity to sin and promptness of confession. So, that is the way I have been responding. On Sunday I received a call from the family of Dennis May. They asked for me to come over and lead them in a small family memorial for him. I went over and met them for the first time. They are wonderful people and their faith and love for Jesus filled the home. I went over to try to be of some comfort and came away blessed for having been with them. Before I left the two sisters took me aside to tell me something. They wanted to tell me if I ever had the chance to talk to the family of the boy who brought the charges to tell them they bore no ill will. They were praying for the boy and his family. It was an amazing and very healing thing to do so close to the tragedy. I did not know the identity of the boy but had been praying for him since he is now the focus of some anger and confusion from other students. I went back to the church and my assistant handed me a note from a woman who dropped by to ask if she could talk to me. The note said," I am the mother of the boy who is connected with Mr. May". I called her and we met. I was able to help her I think. I got to tell her what the sisters had asked me to convey. Her eyes filled up with tears. She said something about it twice before she left. She also told me that a week ago Saturday she visited our church for the first time. I guess I am still amazed how God continues to work in the midst of the brokenness of this world. He continues to make his way deeper into my brokenness and yours. Sometimes you can see him coming and sometimes he is quiet as a mouse, but make no mistake, he comes.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

thanks, joe for your sensitivity to the memory of dennis, for his family, for the little boy and for his family and for all of us who have been touched by this tragedy. on every level, sin undealt with will cause deep pain. thank God that we can go to the cross. thank God for the exchange that happened there. thank God for forgiveness (His to us, and us to each other.) Dennis, I will miss you.

Anonymous said...

Joe,
I am so proud of our church body and the impact Christ has had upon it. This sort of tragedy is devastating and I have been praying for all of you "On the front line" since I heard. I'm glad the Lord has been felt throughout this. It further underlines how God can use everything for the good of those who love him.

Dave Brandolini said something in the Cafe that really stuck with me, "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". I pray that sticks in everyone's mind as it did me!

Anonymous said...

Romans 4 Justification and grace.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Joe for sharing what you have about the mother of this young man. He has been in my prayers, and it is so good for the lord to use you to bridge that gap between the broken hearted sisters and the mother of this boy.

Anonymous said...

Joe thank you for posting this, it is something how the Holy Spirit works!! Me and some other ladies were praying for the younge boy and his family on tues. morning after reading the plain dealer article. It was upsetting to say the least. We will keep on lifting up this boy and his family and the family of Dennis. I am thankful this woman came to you, and am hoping & praying her son will be surrounded by love.

Anonymous said...

Joe, I have found so much comfort in your words. I cannot thank you enough for sharing this.

Anonymous said...

thanks joe for this blog. it's an answer to our prayers for all the family and friends involved in this very heartbreaking situation. may the Lord continue to grant you grace and wisdom to extend his mercy and love to everyone who is reaching out for your help at this time.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for the biblical truth, love, and grace you have helped bring to these circumstances. How encouraging to see you and your church demonstrating Christ to your community in the way that you have embraced both of the families involved! We are praying for you....

Anonymous said...

I do not attend your church, nor do my children attend Hudson schools, but I came to your website in hopes of something to ease the pain and questions I have over this tragedy in our community. Your thoughts regarding what happens to the souls of suicide victims lent healing not only to this situation, but to an age old wound inside of me. God is so clearly using you as a vessel of communication and understanding. Thank you and may God continue to use you in this wonderful way.

Anonymous said...

Picture of Dennis serving the Lord and singing his praises... I find it comforting that Dennis is in the center of the great cloud of witnesses...
http://mikewise07.smugmug.com/gallery/4012703_TiWiC#233611645_UcsST-O-LB

His parents got a print of this image from the choir with the text:
In loving memory
Dennis May
The Hudson Community Chapel

And then below
...and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever. Psalm 23

They will also receive a note book filled with positive and encouraging writings from choir members about Dennis.

Anonymous said...

What a blessing that you were able to pass along the sisters comments directly to the boy's mother- only God could orchestrate that!
Thanks for the update on these two families that we have been praying for.

Anonymous said...

Wow, Joe, that brought tears to my eyes hearing how God turns bad things to good.

"How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!"

Thank you for your leadership and for sharing.

Anonymous said...

I can't tell you how felt when I heard the news of the choice that Dennis May made.
Your words have confirmed my belief that HHC is so blessed to have Pastor Joe, and Pastor Jim. I am a bit selfish, I think God put you at my church just for me!! But, truly the community of Hudson is blessed. Thank you for your knowledge,and the love that you share.

Anonymous said...

Joe, Thank you so much for be so willing to be such a vessel for God. This has been such a hard for me to sort out in my own mind.I Appreciate and have such a deep respect for all of you . I can really see the Holy Spirit working in the whole situation. And wow God is so good.r

Anonymous said...

To the anonymous women who this post:

Anonymous said...
I do not attend your church, nor do my children attend Hudson schools, but I came to your website in hopes of something to ease the pain and questions I have over this tragedy in our community. Your thoughts regarding what happens to the souls of suicide victims lent healing not only to this situation, but to an age old wound inside of me. God is so clearly using you as a vessel of communication and understanding. Thank you and may God continue to use you in this wonderful way.

February 18, 2009 5:20 PM

... I just want to let you know that your post struck me and hit my heart. I dont really know why it stood out so much to me. I dont know what you are going through, but I am commited to praying for you. God is good.