The Last Talk

Today family begins to descend for the wedding. What a great day! Last night I gave Rachel and Will the talk I give all couples the last time we meet. I talked to them about M&M's, communication, sex, and the pure miracle of forgiveness. No marriage will survive long without frequent trips to a well of forgiveness. I think it was in the movie Love Story that the character says,"Love means never having to say you are sorry". That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Any way, you haven't really experience awkward until you sit with your wife, daughter and future son-in-law and talk about the wonder of sex. Really weird. I kept having to remind myself that sex was not my idea but God's. There is something sacred about losing yourself in the love of another under the safety of a covenant. So, God is about to bestow such a gift on my daughter and I was looking into the eyes of the one who would participate in the giving of that gift. I told them sex is a good barometer to let them know how the other parts were going. I told them to treat their marriage like their bodies. If they are sick for a couple of days then they will probably get better but if they are sick for 3 weeks they should see a doctor. If they are not getting along for 3 weeks then come and see someone. It was a good talk. I had to do it because the marriage license was sitting on the dining room table 10 feet away. I have signed more than 100 of those things but as I held this one in my hand it felt different. I looked hard at the names, felt the texture of the paper in my hands, took a deep breath and went in to have the last talk. So, today I am ready for all the confusion to start but every once in a while I will steal a glance at my daughter, wink at her, and let her know that I love her dearly and the best is yet to come.